Sekkizhar Prasanna

In recent times a few of my friends either got married or are getting married soon or are in the verge of starting the process or have already met the person and is waiting for the word from their parents.

Lots of interesting observations were made.

All of them are nervous.

All of them have started using this cliched dialogue, “You are single, I am not going to be soon.”

All foresee some problem that might never exist.

All of them are scared.

I obviously cant disclose any names and some requested that I do not use their names. So even the gender is not being disclosed.

I met a friend at the beach yesterday. The person has just started started looking out for a match. We were going through the process where and how things would start. Oh the amount of complications..! The amount of stress both the boy and girl undergo is funny to look at from the outside. But i guess i have to be in their shoes to realise how much is going to change in their lives.

How do i choose the right person?

How will my parents give consent?

Will i have this much of freedom after marriage?

How much is going to change?

Where am i going to settle?

Is he/she the right person?

So sad to see these people spoil their present day thinking about the future. But i just take it as a sign of their future.

Is this an evil of the arranged marriage system?

Are people in love sticking to that person because they made a commitment early in life and are just too scared to look away from their choice?

All said and done, it is in the hands of the individual to control all this.

Personally i am far from this situation. I am not in love. So, i will be easily plugged not to speak and what i am going to say might seem funny to a lot of people. But however you are, I suggest you do not lose your personality. It might be difficult in practical life. But it is us who make it practical or not.